Key Takeaways
- The hora is a lively Jewish wedding dance where the couple is lifted on chairs while guests form circles.
- Plan the hora with your DJ or band at least two months before the wedding to ensure the music and timing are perfect.
- Anyone can join the hora, but strong, sober guests should lift the couple to keep the celebration safe and fun.
There are many different traditions to partake in on your big day. From your first kiss with your partner as newlyweds to cutting the cake—and sharing a bit or two, you and your soon-to-be spouse will select the customs you want to incorporate into your ceremony and reception. However, in addition to the common American rituals, there may be a few practices from your heritage or religion that you also want to add into your big day. If you're a Jewish couple, one such tradition may be the hora, a Jewish wedding dance that celebrates the couple's new marriage.
"The hora is a traditional Jewish dance performed in a circle to lively music, typically "Hava Nagila," says Cathy O'Connell, the co-founder and creative director of COJ Events. "It's a high-energy celebration where guests dance in circles and often lift the couple (and sometimes [their] parents) on chairs." However, even if you've participated in this ritual numerous times, you may have a few questions about how to best incorporate it into your own celebration.
Below, we break down everything you need to know about adding this traditional Jewish wedding dance to your reception. Read on for more.
What Is the Hora Dance?
The hora is a traditional dance performed at Jewish weddings where the newlyweds are lifted into the air while their family members and friends dance in circles around them. During the hora, the couple each holds one end of a handkerchief or napkin to signify their union.
The History of the Hora Dance
For centuries, traditional circle dances have been practiced in many cultures across the Balkans and Southeastern Europe. The Turkish have their own version; so do the Romanians, the Bulgarians, and the Russians. The modern-day hora dates back to 1924 when the dance was performed for Jewish settlers. It soon became associated with joy and has been performed at special occasions, such as weddings, ever since.
While historical horas were performed with individuals twirling in circles, these days they are done in a group circle. Participants join hands and move in choreographed steps (don’t worry—they are easy to learn). In more traditional Jewish communities, men and women dance separately in their own circles. Yet, in more modern communities, men and women dance together in coed circles with the couple in the middle.
9 Common Questions About This Jewish Wedding Dance, Answered
Still have a few questions about the hora? Below, we answer 10 of the most common questions about this custom. Read on for everything you need to know before incorporating it into your big day—or participating in it at a celebration.
When should the hora be done?
"Typically, the hora happens early in the reception, right after the couple is introduced and after their first dance," says O'Connell. "It’s a great way to get everyone on the dance floor at the beginning of the night." However, if you'd prefer not to start this ritual immediately, O'Connell adds that another opportune time is right after dinner. Regardless, make sure you opt for a period in the evening when your guests are full of energy—and excited to join in.
Who joins into the hora?
Everyone who wants to—and is able to—can parktake in this Jewish wedding tradition. "It's a communal dance open to all guests," O'Connell says.
Who is lifted on the chairs during the hora?
While the couple is always lifted on chairs, sometimes the couple's immediate family members, such as their parents and siblings, are also lifted into the middle of the circle.
Who lifts the couple onto the chairs?
Anybody can lift the couple during the hora. However, it can be incredibly hard work, so it's important that someone has the strength to do so before volunteering. O'Connell adds that's crucial to make sure the guests in charge of raising the newlyweds are sober. Know that it's also common to swap people in and out of the role. Lifters are sometimes appointed beforehand; yet, it's also considered acceptable to run into the middle of the circle and partake spontaneously.
When should you start planning the hora?
It’s best to start planning the wedding reception two months before the wedding, and this includes the hora. Speak with your DJ or live band about when you want the hora to take place and ,make sure they are prepared to play the right music. Don’t forget to discuss the length of the dance as well.
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Who initiates the hora?
It’s up to the wedding party and close friends and family of the couple to make sure the hora dance goes smoothly. Remember: If they get the circles moving, everybody else will follow.
Who dances inside the circles during the hora?
Oftentimes, during the hora, smaller circles are formed inside of the larger circle. Because the couple is in the center of the circle, it’s customary to pull different groups in to dance with them. Put one bridesmaid or groomsmen in charge of encouraging guests of the wedding to swap in and out so that everybody gets a turn in the center.
What should the napkin be made of?
It doesn’t matter what the napkin is made of as long as it's sturdy enough to withstand the dance— and long enough for the couple to hold on each end. Oftentimes, a cloth napkin from a table setting is used. It can also be a piece of fabric that is particularly meaningful to the couple—or a family heirloom.
How long should the hora be?
Ultimately, the hora can last as long as the couple desires. It can be a quick song, or it can go on for multiple hours with different renditions. Know that at more traditional weddings, the hora tends to last a bit longer. "A hora can [last] 10 to 15 minutes, but they have also been known to continue for 20 to 30 minutes," O'Connell adds.
