The couple has also asked bridesmaids to pay for their own bouquets.
Published on October 02, 2025 10:09AM
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Key Takeaways
- An embarrassed sister of the bride took to Reddit to detail how her sibling is "crowdfunding" her wedding and honeymoon on social media by asking loved ones to pay for things they can't afford.
- She asked if this was "normal" behavior after outlining that most of the food was already being paid for or provided by relatives.
- Reddit users agreed that the behavior was not just abnormal, but downright "tacky" and "mortifying."
If you ask anyone who has ever planned a wedding what the most stressful part of the process was, you'll likely hear some version of the same answer: figuring out how to pay for the celebration of their dreams. Budgeting is the most important step in the wedding-planning process for a reason: Without a clear understanding of what you can afford to pay—or how much your family members plan to contribute—it's impossible to know what's realistic for you. But what happens when your budget isn't aligned with your vision? According to a recent Reddit post, some couples are relying on an unusual tactic to pay for their ceremonies and receptions.
In a post on Reddit's r/weddingshaming thread titled "My gen z sister attempting to crowd fund her wedding," one woman detailed how her younger sister—who is 22 and marrying her 25-year-old partner—has been asking friends on social media to help foot the bill for her wedding and honeymoon. "I’m so embarrassed and idk why cause it’s not my wedding…but my little sister’s wedding is this weekend and I CANNOT WAIT to get this over with," the original poster explained. "Her and her fiancé (whom I’m not the biggest fan of) have asked their social media friends and family every single week for the last 8 months to help crowd fund BOTH the wedding AND the honeymoon (in lieu of a registry)."
Their model for asking for the funds? First, they outline what they're still trying to pay for on social media. Then, they post a link to contribute digitally. "Like asking friends and family on social media to contribute to their honeymoon via a link or to 'help out with the wedding because the need a couple more things,'" the original poster explained. "Then she proceeds to post her cash app and Venmo QR codes."
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She also explained that the bride has asked her and the other bridesmaids to chip in for things like bouquets. "She has even asked us bridesmaids if we’d want to pay for the wedding bouquets as the ones she wants are too expensive," the confused sister wrote. She also explained that the celebration will have no alcohol and that the food, including the wedding cake, has been paid for or will be made by other family members.
In the end, the original poster asked other Reddit users to weigh in on whether or not this is the new normal when it comes to paying for a wedding. "Is this like a generational thing that’s normal??" she asked. "I saved for my own wedding and would never have asked anyone let alone on social media to help pay." The general consensus? No, it's not normal at all. Users used words like "tacky" and "mortifying" in their responses. Many also noted that the couple should have waited longer to have their wedding, giving themselves more time to save for the celebration they wanted.
One user simply wrote, "This isn’t a wedding celebrating love and commitment to be enjoyed with family and friends. It’s a cash grab for a party and a vacation on someone else’s dime disguised as a wedding."
