Inside Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco's Relationship, From Their First Song Together to Their Wedding Planning Journey

If the rumors are true, Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco are set to walk down the aisle this weekend. They've largely kept their wedding plans—and their relationship as a whole—under wraps, but after announcing their engagement on December 11, 2024, the two began hinting at what a wedding ceremony and reception would look like. Selena said a formal first dance was off the table but that she definitely wanted to honor her soon-to-be husband's Jewish heritage with a hora. Another thing the couple doesn't want? A big wedding cake. Instead, Selena said on Rare Beauty's TikTok account that she'd prefer to cut into a mini cake that she and Benny could later save for their first anniversary.

But before they started planning their dream wedding in California, the couple worked hard to build a solid foundation for their relationship, and though Selena and Benny didn't go public until December of 2023, they first met in 2019. Here, we go inside their romantic relationship, which is filled with public displays of affection, incredible musical collaboration, and a healthy dose of fast food.

March 2019: Their First Professional Collaboration

In Mach of 2019, Selena and Benny collaborated on the song "I Just Can't Get Enough," along with J Balvin and Tainy. The duo even appeared in the music video together—Selena was dressed in a pink pajama set and Benny was wearing a fluffy white teddy bear costume.

July 2023: Benny Attends Selena's 31st Birthday Celebration

According to Page Six, Selena threw a star-studded 31st birthday party, attended by celebrities like Paris Hilton and Christina Aguilera. Also among the guests? Benny Blanco, who Selena posted a photo with on Instagram. Though the snapshot from the party looks completely innocent, this could mark the very beginning of the duo's relationship.

August 2023: Their Second Musical Collaboration Is Released

For years after their first collab was released, Selena and Benny worked on another hit together, with the latter serving as the track's producer: "Single Soon." During an interview with SiriusXM Hits 1 LA about the new song, she discussed what her ideal partner would look like. “I mean you gotta be cool, man. Not cool in the sense that people think you’re cool. You just gotta be nice and like, please make me laugh and also just be good to my family and people around you.”

October 2023: Benny Supports Selena at the Rare Impact Fund Benefit

Though they hadn't gone public with their relationship yet, it seems as if Selena and Benny were an item by the fall of 2023. On October 4, 2023, the music producer attended Selena's makeup company Rare Beauty’s first Rare Impact Fund Benefit.

December 7, 2023: Selena Confirms That She and Benny Are Dating

Though Selena is notoriously private about her personal life, she shared the news that she and Benny were officially a couple on a very public forum: in the comments section on a fan Instagram account. Selena replied to several comments on Instagram posts about her relationship with Benny, noting that she was the "happiest" she's even been and adding, “then why has he been the best thing that's ever happened to me. The end," People reports. In another comment, she confirms that the two have been together for six months. “Not mad. It’s been 6 months bb. I will always defend my friends, family and fans till the day I die.”

She also posted an Instagram story of her hand with a "B" ring on her left ring finger.

December 15, 2023: Benny Is Included in Some of Selena's "Favorite Moments" on Instagram

After a trip to New York, Selena posted a series of photos on Instagram detailing her "favorite moments" of the trip. "New York, my favorite moments w you this week 🤍," she wrote. Benny is spotted in two photos: First, he has his arms around her at a table with friends. Then, she's laying in his lap kissing him while holding his head.

January 3, 2024: Their First Public Date

After keeping their relationship private for six months, it seems Selena and Benny were finally ready to go public—and they did it in a big day. The duo sat courtside at a Los Angeles Lakers game against the Miami Heat, and they packed on plenty of PDA for the occasion.

January 7, 2024: A Golden Globes Moment

Though they didn't walk the red carpet at the 2024 Golden Globes together, they did share a sweet moment during the award show. In addition to her grid post, which shows her and Benny hugging backstage, she also posted a story of the two kissing with the words "I won" over it.

January 15, 2024: Going Public at the Emmy Awards

They still didn't walk the carpet together, but Selena and Benny were spotted sitting together during the 2023 Emmy Awards. The two even hugged and smiled for photos.

February 12, 2024: Best Friends

On February 12, 2024, Selena posted a series of photos with Benny, including one of him cooking in the kitchen while she hugs him from behind, with the caption "My bes fwend." Benny commented back "das my bes fwen."

February 22, 2024: Selena Gushes About Benny

After releasing her single "Love On," Selena chatted with New Music Daily on Apple Music 1 about her new song. She also took a few moments to touch on her relationship with Benny. “Without getting into too much detail, I think it’s just really important to meet someone that respects you. And I think it’s really nice to also lean on someone who understands the world that I live in," she said. "But I’d have to say overall it’s the safest that I feel, and it’s been really lovely, and I’ve only grown through it, so it’s awesome.”

March 5, 2024: Benny Loves to Cook for Selena

While promoting his cookbook Open Wide: A Cookbook for Friends on TalkShopLive, Benny discussed Selena's favorite foods and how much he likes to cook for his girlfriend. “She’s a huge steak fan, so anything with steak in it. She always asks for steak, and she always asks for these little perfect fried potatoes," he said. He also added that she loves soup, and he even made her some and brought it to the set of Only Murders in the Building. "So she was shooting a show yesterday, and I made a little soup, and I brought it over to her.”

April 10, 2024: Getting "Very Serious"

A source told People that Selena and Benny seemed to be in it for the long-haul, and that their relationship was getting "very serious." "They are so in love. It’s a very serious relationship, and they’re making long distance work while she’s in New York for work commitments," the source told the outlet. "Benny makes her feel special and they try to see each other as much as possible. She really does feel like it’s the best she’s ever been treated by a guy, and she’s had a certain glow since they started dating."

May 14, 2024: Talking About Forever

Benny appeared on The Howard Stern Show and said that marriage was definitely on the table. "When I look at her…I’m always just like, I don’t know a world where it could be better than this," he said. "People always said this to me, when you know you meet your best friend, she truly is my best friend."

August 8, 2024: Sparking Engagement Rumors

According to Elle, fans began suspecting that Selena and Benny might be engaged in August of 2024 when the actress posted a getting ready photo with pink heart emojis covering up the fourth finger on her left hand.

September 9, 2024: Selena Calls Benny a "Light" in Her Life

In her cover story with Vanity Fair, Selena gushed about her relationship with Benny, calling him a "light." She also noted that the two felt no pressure to get married. “We always make sure we’re protecting what we have, but there’s no rules,” she said. “I want him to always be himself. I always want to be myself." She went on to add that this relationship is unlike any she'd ever been in. “I’ve never been loved this way,” she explained. “He’s just been a light. A complete light in my life. He’s my best friend. I love telling him everything.”

December 11, 2024: Selena and Benny Are Engaged!

Selena and Benny are officially engaged! On December 11, 2024, Selena posted a series of photos on Instagram, beginning with a marquise-cut diamond engagement ring on her hand, with the caption "forever begins now.." The carousel of images also shows Selena looking at her ring while sitting on a picnic blanket surrounded by Taco Bell, one of her favorite fast food establishments. The bride-to-be's close friend, Taylor Swift, commented that she would be the flower girl.

January 5, 2025: Engaged Date Night at the Golden Globes

The newly-engaged duo enjoyed a public date while attending the 82nd Golden Globe Awards. Selena, in an off-the-shoulder blue gown, showed off her sparkling diamond engagement ring all evening long. Benny wrote a wedding-appropriate white tux for the occasion.

February 13, 2025: Collaborating on More Music

Selena and Benny aren't just partners in life—they're also great professional partners. On February 13, 2025, the two announced they collaborated on a new album called I Said I Love You First. In an interview with Interview Magazine, Selena opened up about working with Benny. "He listened to me. Most of my anxiety right now is wanting him to speak because I feel like he’s more talented than I am in this field," she said. "This album definitely feels just as much mine as I’m sure it does his."

March 20, 2025: Selena and Benny Haven't Started Planning Their Wedding

During a joint appearance on Today on March 20, 2025, the couple admitted they hadn't started wedding planning. "I’m actually shooting season 5 of Only Murders right now," Selena said. "You know, he has to do some work stuff, too. To be honest, I’m just enjoying us in this moment, and yeah, then we’ll get to start the craziness." She also said she didn't even know if they "had time" for a wedding this year.

April 30, 2025: Selena Doesn't Want a First Dance

Despite saying that they hadn't planned the wedding, Selena and Benny certainly knew what they did—and didn't—want at their wedding. During an appearance on the Table Manners with Jessie and Lennie Ware on April 30, 2025, Selena said she wanted to skip the first dance tradition on their wedding day. "I don’t think we’re looking at having one of those ‘cause they’re a little—I feel embarrassed," she said. Blanco added, "She's shy."

September 9, 2025: The Bride Opens Up About Wedding Plans

Rumors began swirling that Selena and Benny would tie the knot in September of 2025, and though they've kept the date and location quiet, Selena did open up about some of the big-day details. On September 9, 2025, Gomez appeared on The Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon alongside Only Murders in the Building costars Martin Short and Steve Martin. When asked if the two comedians would be invited to the wedding, Selena replied, "Of course they are, Marty's the ring bearer."