Choosing bridesmaid gifts can be stressful. You want to show appreciation, not just check a box. Unfortunately, some gifts miss the mark (big time). From awkward choices to gifts no one actually uses, here are the worst bridesmaid gifts brides have actually given (and what to gift instead).
🚫 5 Bridesmaid Gifts to Avoid
1. Items with “Bridesmaid” or just the wedding date: These feel more like a souvenir from your day than a gift for her. Cute for photos? Sure. Useful afterward? Not really.
2. Cheap “survival kits”: Bandages, gum, bobby pins… these are helpful in a pinch, but they’re not a heartfelt thank-you. It’s nice to have on the wedding day as an extra, but not as her actual gift to show your heartfelt thanks.
3. Fitness or self-help items: Giving yoga mats or fitness accessories might seem thoughtful, but they can feel unintentionally insulting.
4. Overly personalized items: If it doesn’t match her style or vibe, she won’t use it.
5. One-time-use robes, mugs, or accessories: If it’s only relevant for the wedding morning, it’s not going to be memorable afterward. Instead, choose affordable getting ready outfits she’ll wear again (yes, really!)
✅ What to Give Instead
- Sentimental items that make her feel loved: Consider photo albums, scrapbooks, or unique photo flip music boxes or personalized photo frame that showcase some of your fave memories together.
- Quality self-care gifts: A luxe silk pillowcase, soothing candle, or spa experience gift card never fails.
Silk pillowcase by Mellanni
“It’s Giving” candle by PerfectMatchShop
Spa gift box by bellaciodecor - Handwritten notes: Add a heartfelt, handwritten letter to any gift. It might be the part she remembers most.
- Decorative home accessories: Something stylish and meaningful, like this glass flower based on her birth month.
By OpulentDriftCoCrafts - Experience gifts: A brunch, spa day, or wine tasting is far more memorable than another coffee mug. Browse experience gifts here.
- Something that reflects her interests: A custom portrait, a book she’ll love, or stylish tech accessories — it’s all about knowing your girls.
Jewelry she’ll wear again: Think timeless, minimalist, and versatile pieces — like gold hoops or a custom name necklace she’ll actually want to wear.
Minimalist name necklace by caitlynminimalist
Simple hoop earrings from Lulus
💡 FAQs About Bridesmaid Gifts
How much should I spend?
Most brides spend between $50–$150 per bridesmaid, depending on your budget and how many attendants you have. Remember: It’s the thought that counts — not the price tag.
Can I give different gifts to each bridesmaid?
Yes — and you should if you want to make it more personal! Just make sure each one feels equally appreciated and loved.
When should I give the gifts?
Most brides gift them during the rehearsal dinner or morning of the wedding while getting ready together.
► Looking for the perfect bridesmaid gift? Choose something thoughtful, personal, and useful so she remembers it long after the big day. Our HUGE guide of 50 Most Useful Bridesmaid Gifts will point you in the right direction.
Emma Arendoski
Emma is the CEO of Emmaline Bride, The Handmade Wedding Blog, published author, leading wedding expert, and wedding planner. Read her latest book: The Inspired Wedding. Wife, mother, coffee lover. Follow on Instagram and at Emmaline Baby for baby + kids inspiration.
